The term “Bridezilla” and “Groomzilla” reared its ugly head after a famished photographer was reportedly denied a break to grab a bite to eat at a wedding. The photographer retaliated by deleting the couple’s wedding photographs before taking off and is now asking an important question: “Am I the A-hole?”.
And let’s face it, how often do you wonder how hungry the photographer must be after spending eight hours (if not more) capturing the bride and groom’s special day? But when you dig a little deeper, it’s revealed that this wasn’t actually a professional photographer, but a friend who was doing the couple a favour.
In a post on Reddit titled AITA “Am I the a-hole”, the ‘photographer’ explained that:
“I’m not really a photographer, I’m a dog groomer. I take lots of photos of dogs all day to put on my Facebook and Instagram, it’s “my thing” if that makes sense.
“A friend got married a few days ago and wanting to save money, asked if I’d shoot it for them. I told him it’s not really my forte but he convinced me by saying he didn’t care if they were perfect: they were on a shoestring budget and I agreed to shoot it for $250, which is nothing for a 10 hour event.
“I started around 11am and was due to finish around 7:30pm. Around 5pm, food is being served and I was told I cannot stop to eat because I need to be photographer; in fact, they didn’t save me a spot at any table.
“I told the groom I need to take off for 20min to get something to eat and drink. There’s no open bar or anything, I can’t even get water and my two water bottles are long empty. He tells me I need to either be photographer, or leave without pay.
“With the heat, being hungry, being generally annoyed at the circumstances, I asked if he was sure, and he said yes, so I deleted all the photos I took in front of him and took off saying I’m not his photographer anymore. If I was to be paid $250, honestly at that point I would have paid $250 just for a glass of cold water and somewhere to sit for 5min.”
Was I the a-hole? the photographer asked.
The comments have been blowing up since as Cat_got_ya_tongue said “They wanted mates rates but didn’t even save you food?… The dogs are much better people than these ‘friends’”.
When asked whether the photographer would have been invited to the wedding regardless, the response was “I was invited. I RSVP’d with my food choice. But I guess I was changed from a guest to “the work” and didn’t need any of that anymore?”
“Did they want you to take pictures of everyone while they’re eating? “Oh look, here’s Aunt Mary shoveling a piece of chicken into her mouth!” secret_identity_too expressed.
In response to that the photographer said “In retrospect, I wasn’t thinking straight because now I’ve nothing to show for my wasted time. I just had to get out of there and make a point before I did. As for shooting people eating: no, they have a daughter who was running around and I was on “kid duty” while everyone else was eating.”
Meanwhile, dellaevaine said “I paid a professional photographer and Dj at my wedding and we counted them in the food counts. You can’t expect them to work all day and not get paid.”
Read the full thread over here.